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Ally’s Anarchy Playbook to Life

Don’t waste who you are. Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken.

Life is an illusion. Reality isn’t real – it’s all our own perception.

Push the limits. Ask questions. Be curious.

Imagination is more important than knowledge.

Try everything. Just don’t get addicted.

Never half-ass anything – always use your full ass.

Lose yourself so then you can go find yourself.

Know the difference between your heart, your mind and your intuition.

Don’t let happiness be defined by other people. Happiness is whatever you want it to be.

Do shit that scares you. Trying new things makes you grow. If you’re not growing, you’re dying.

Travel. Get in a car, on a boat, or in a plane. Change your perception and your reality. Expand your mind and your physical self.

Don’t confuse hate with passion.

Just know, the aliens are coming.

Your brain isn’t fully developed into maturity until you are 25 years old. Try not to make any life altering stupid-ass decisions before then.

Set goals. Without goals you’re useless.

Fall down the rabbit hole and go on a journey.

Self education is worth more than any institutionalized education.

Stop complaining. You are not a tree. If you don’t like where you are or what you’re doing get up and move.

Hustle. No one appreciates lazy people. Lazy people can only get so far.

Eat fresh, wholesome food. Otherwise your choosing to have health problems. 

Network. Make new friends. Keep up with old friends.

Don’t take anything personally.

Read instead of watching tv.

You are not a special little snowflake. If you want to create a name for yourself, that’s up to you.

Remember, the world doesn’t owe you a damn thing.

Find yourself some chaos and then find your nirvana. Ying and yang keeps us alive.

It’s fine if you think you’re a badass, or maybe you actually are but you still need to meditate.

Exercise. Your entire life will improve.

You don’t need to like everyone. Not everyone likes you. Be nice anyways.

You can learn something from everybody no matter how rich or poor or stupid or intelligent you think they are.

Don’t believe everything you hear. Find out for yourself.

You aren’t invincible but you also aren’t fragile.

Nothing is forever and nothing is permanent so live in the present moment.

Remember to think in sounds and see in colors when you need a new perspective.

Play with energy. Get familiar with it and own it.

Dance with the devil and see how much you can grow.

Accidentally fall in love.

Stop living by societies rules. There are no rules.

Drink more champagne. Life is worth celebrating.

Plane Friends

Over the past few years of travel and many flights… I’ve noticed there are two kinds of people on airplanes:

1. the person you sit next to who wants to talk
2. and the person you sit next to who doesn’t want to talk
 
I’ve always been the second person. I have a routine I follow when I travel. I checkin in on my phone, I have my 1 travel bag filled with my essentials: laptop, charger, book, journal, phone, protein bar. I hate getting to the airport early; I breeze through pre-check. Then I go pee. I get a water bottle, I put my headphones in and my sunglasses on. I get to the gate, walk on the plane, sit down with my “don’t bother me” face. If there’s wifi I work, if I can’t work, I read or listen to an audio book, and if it’s a long ass flight I try to sleep OR If I have a plane question (see post here) I’ll journal on my plane question. I try to make my flight time as productive as possible so I don’t lose hours in the air.
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One of my best friends, Heather, she’s the opposite of me. She’s the other type of plane person. Every plane she gets on she always has a story for me about the person she met at the airport or sat next to on the plane. It’s always entertaining and she’s always happy with whomever she meets.

Earlier this year, I decided I was going to be the other type of plane person. I decided I was going to take my sunglasses off, not immediately put headphones in or read until wifi is available. I put my “more approachable” face on and I sit down in my seat.

This year I’ve made 3 plane friends and couldn’t have been happier with each person who has sat next to me on some of my flights. I’ve learned something new from each of them and felt connected to people I wouldn’t normally talk to or have little to nothing in common with. I think it’s amazing we start out as strangers at the beginning of the flight and just a few hours later become friends. The best part is how the conversation starts with each plane friend. It’s almost as if the universe put these people next to me on my plane knowing I set out to make plane friends this year (#intention.)

Friend #1: The plane is running late and this girl my age runs on and sits right next to me. I notice 15 minutes into the flight she had cactus earrings that match perfectly with my cactus shirt I as wearing (I love cacti btw, my favorite plant.) I tell her I love her earrings and she says “AH I wanted to tell you I love your shirt but you looked like one of those “don’t talk to me” people on a plane.” I literally burst out laughing and tell her all about my plan for all my flights going forward and how I’m setting out to make plane friends. Hours later after sharing each other’s life stories and everything in between she said she was happy to be my first official plane friend. We exchanged contact info and follow each other on instagram. #missionaccomplished

Friend #2: My seat is next to this guy in his late 50s on a conference call. He’s rushing off the call because we are about to take off. As I’m about to ask him what he does for a living he asks me if I drive a motorcycle because of my leather jacket (LOL – my resting bitch face is softening up yay!) Hours later after talking about what we do, what’s important to us, and sharing travel stories and recommendations – Halfway through he tells me he has a fake death sentence. He has some rare blood deficiency that at any moment could make him sick and he would die within a few months. He flies once a month to this specialist in NYC who tests his blood to make sure he’s still fine EVERY MONTH. Ever since he found out about it he’s been living differently. He has started and run multiple companies in his life and he stepped down in majority of them to enjoy travel more. He travels all over the world now and works a minimal amount. He goes on these crazy rock climbing and hiking trips with his daughter who’s my age. That wasn’t even the most interesting thing about him… it was that he hangs out with homeless people in Denver, CO just for fun.

Friend #3: It flight was a red eye from Honolulu to Minneapolis so I sat down and fell asleep. Upon waking up I realized the guy sitting next to me looks like he could be my brother… red hair and freckles galore. He looks like he’s in the military. I ask him if he’s coming from home or going to home. He says he’s visiting back home. I learn the town he’s from in Wisconsin has 1200 people in it…total. I explain my high school had 2,000 people in it. He grew up on a farm. Not like the farm I think of like a handful of chickens, cows and a few horses. I’m talking like 600 cows they milk EVERY DAY. Talk about different lives growing up. He starts telling me he hunts right out his backyard and last year he got attacked by a bear but only had to get 12 stitches like its no big deal… UM WHAT. He’s in the marine corps because that’s what every generation before him has done. They enroll right after high school and then they move back home and work on the farm the rest of their life. I was shocked. How can you not want do something different and explore the world? He said he loves where he is from and is so excited to get out of the marines and go back to his families farm. It’s his dream.

Three plane friends down – many more to go.

If you are person type 2 on planes I say for fun make it a point to make a friend on your next flight. See what happens. You never know who your sitting next to.

Happy flying!

-Ginger Out

Plane Questions

Every time I board a plane and its about to take off my life flashes in front of my eyes. I immediately remember and feel grateful for every single person in my life. I feel gratitude for everything I have and everyone I know; all the experiences and opportunities flood me all at once. I remember things I may have forgotten or even hidden. I remember people more vividly than ever before. It’s like a life memory overload in just a couple of minutes. I thought eventually this would fade away as my travel increased but it’s only intensified with each flight. A rush of every single emotion sneaks up on me all at once and I can barely handle it but yet I crave it. The takeoff reminds me that everything could be gone so quickly and how stepping back and appreciating my life is important. The take off of the plane forces me into an overwhelm of appreciation and I love it every single time.

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I’m not afraid of flying but I usually look at the person sitting next to me knowing that if something happened I would grab their hand and tell them everything would be okay. One time I was explaining to a friend how when there is intense turbulence and everyone starts getting that nervous feeling in your gut how I think to myself how awesome my life has been and how grateful I am for everything I’ve had an experienced. I then become at peace and okay with death. The guy sitting beside me and my friend just laughed at me and went “That’s kinda crazy you do that… but also kind of aweosme.”

While all this flash of life seems to happen each flight or ALMOST each flight..I also use plane rides for something else… I use it for decision making. If I have a question or contemplation or decision to make and I know I have a flight coming up I save it for that. It’s uninterrupted time up above the clouds I can journal during with some music. What better place to have a free mind? I’ve come up with some good shit on some amazing flights. You’d be surprised how much your brain can wander 40,000 feet up in the sky.

Next time you have a flight and a question you want answered try journaling it out with the clouds. See what you can come up with :)

IT’S TUESDAY

Today is Tuesday. Tuesday’s are my favorite day. I have no idea why. For as long as I can remember, I have gotten this excitement around Tuesday. On Tuesday’s everything shines brighter, things taste better, the sky is bluer, the grass is greener, and everything feels just right. It doesn’t matter if its raining or the sky is falling, it’s still the best day ever to me. It’s like I get high off of Tuesday. I love life, I love everyone in it and everything I’m doing. I’m more receptive, I listen better, I work better, I think deeper, I laugh louder and I’m overwhelmingly grateful for everything. On Tuesday’s I feel like an alien than just got off of my spaceship and onto planet earth for the first time. Everything feels fresh and wonderful.

So on that note, hope you all have a terrific Tuesday.

I’ll just leave this right here…

#GYPSYLIFE

I haven’t been everywhere, but it’s on my list.

When I graduated college 3 years ago I knew two things:

1. I needed to travel and move around.
2. I needed income that would allow me to travel and move around.

I get a combination of statements from people that either don’t understand my lifestyle or that don’t share the same lifestyle needs as I h
ave. It’s either “aren’t you tired?” or “are you ever going to settle down?” or when I first meet people and they say “where do you live?”

My quick answer is always “it’s wanderlust” and/or “I’m a gypsy.” (My Nana calls me a gypsy, so I started rolling with it.)

Yes, one day I will settle down and pop out little devil spawn that will quite possibly take over the world BUT right now that is not my priority. My priority is living my life and seeing and doing as much as I possibly can on this earth. No, not just on earth, in the whole universe (I want to go to space.) I have purposely made my income and life so that I can move anywhere I want to and travel anywhere I want to (provided they have internet of course and yes once the moon has wifi you bet your ass I’ll be on the moon.)

Yes, of course I get tired but that doesn’t alter my interests in anyway to stop traveling. I get energized, excited and happy from travel. I like seeing and experiencing new places; it’s invigorating. One could refer to it as wanderlust. I get pumped up, refreshed, inspired and high on life when I travel. Travel is my coco and I’m in love with my coco. The world has so much to see and offer and most people don’t even get to half of the places they’d love to. I can’t be one of those people. I’d become depressed not seeing or at least trying to see everything I want to in the world.

I’ve learned it’s also the “way you travel” that changed travel for me. I don’t seek out luxurious resorts with spas and a tourist itinerary everywhere I go. I try to immerse myself as if I was living in the place as much as I can when traveling for leisure especially. When I think back on most of my trips, the most inspiring ones have always been staying with friends or not having specific travel plans. For me, the idea that I can (and have) booked a one-way ticket somewhere with no plan or idea what date I will go somewhere next is a feeling I can’t even use words to describe. I encourage you to try it if you haven’t yet.

Travel wakes up my brain cells and recharges me in a way nothing else has. I come up with new ideas, I change, I learn, I grow in an expedited time.

“Not all those who wander are lost”

wanderlust

 

20 Things You Should Do In Your 20s

1. Move around. Chances are you aren’t married and chances are you don’t have kids. So use your parents’ address as your legal address and get up and move around and explore the world and the people in it. If you’re still in college, study abroad, if you are looking for a new job, apply in different cities all over the place. If you happen to be lucky enough to work from home or have an extra chunk of change then what are you waiting for?

2. Learn how to make friends outside of the school system. Ever notice how easy it was to make friends when you were 6 vs. 16? You no longer want to be someone’s friend just because you both like the color green. As we get older we become set in our ways and set in a group of friends. When you attend school you automatically gravitate towards people and make new friends. Once people get out of school, making new friends comes to an  abrupt halt. Start learning how to meet new people: at work, at seminars, join clubs, take up a hobby, go to the gym. Become an open, approachable person who’s goal is to constantly meet new people.

3. Try some personal development. It’s not weird… okay some of it can be… but not all of it. So give it a chance. It will better your life. Whether it be a book, a seminar, or a course. Constantly working to better yourself will help you, the people around you, and your outlook on life.

4. Go to a festival – a BIG festival, like Burning Man, Tomorrowland, Coachella, Mardi Gras, Future Music Festival, there are endless festivals all over the world. It’s a gigantic crowd of people that are solely there to have fun. Go, let loose, meet some new people, and have some fun. While you’re at it, road trip there (if you can) to make it even more of an adventure.

5. Network. Learn how to network. Build your network of people older and younger than you. Build your network all over the place not just in the state you live in. This will help you as you get older. You will know accountants, lawyers, doctors, marketers, hippies, physical fitness trainers, and psychologists that will one day help you or be able to give you advice when you really need it.

6. Figure out what you’re passionate about. Too many people wake up and realize they’re 52 years old and they hate their life, their job, and want to do something else but have no idea what that something else is. Everyone that tells you “Oh you’re still young, you have plenty of time, enjoy your youth, etc.” is feeding you bullshit. Yes take advantage of your youth and your high energy levels and network, experience life and figure out what the fuck you want to do with your life.

7. Realize it’s okay to dump friends. It sounds harsh but let’s be honest – just because you have known someone for most of your life does not mean it is a healthy, beneficial relationship to keep. If anything it could be bringing you down and holding you back in life. If you wanted an anchor or crutch you can go out and find yourself one when you decide you want one. Getting rid of the Debbie Downer’s just makes more room for the Positive Pamela’s.

8. Stop caring about what other people think. No but really. STOP caring about what other people think. Just be you, like the real you. Think about it. Why do you care if all the strangers at the mall look at you funny because of how you’re dressed today. Chances are you aren’t ever going to see ANY OF THEM ever again AND if you happen to intrigue a stranger to want to come and talk to you because of how you are dressed then that seems like a perfect way to meet people.

9. Take risks. Taking a risk on a job, starting a business, or living in a new culture where you don’t speak the language is MUCH easier when you’re 25 rather than 45. You have much less responsibilities, you probably don’t own that much and you have less to lose. So take risks in life. Whether you fail or succeed at least you gave it a shot and experienced and learned something new.

10. Do crazy shit. Jump out of a plane, go scuba diving, climb a mountain, do some drugs, run a marathon, take a hot air balloon ride, or enter a pie eating contest. The time is now, you’re at your prime age, just go do some crazy shit that you can add to your bucket list.

11. Learn a unique skill. Juggle, surf, fly a plane, learn magic tricks, master black jack, or learn jiu jitsu. Learning new things is easier the younger you are and it also enhances your brain.

12. Learn another language. If you already speak multiple languages than learn another one. Learning another language is not only practical but it enhances your knowledge and enhances your memory. The older you get the more difficult it becomes to learn a new language so the sooner you learn one the better.

13. Care about your body both inside and out. Yes you are still “young” and you don’t have a bunch of health problems (yet!) so how you treat your body now will effect your body as you age. Stop eating crap. Exercise, get fresh air, and eat good food. Our generation has grown up with factory farmed meat, video games instead of playing outdoors, tanning beds, and a mass amount of radiation around us every single day. How do you think all of that adds up our health as we age? It’s going to SUCK. So start caring about your body, your skin, your bones and organs.

14. Join a cause. Whether its to help out at an animal shelter or give $10 a month to cancer research of your choice you should do it. Join a revolution. Go build houses for people less fortune than you. Stand up for what you believe in. Too many young people don’t care enough. Fight for something you care about or believe in – not only will you help others but you will be helping yourself.

15. Go a week without technology. We have grown up in a generation with the internet, phones, computers, and iPods. Go a week without technology. It will feel refreshing and make you appreciate everything you have at your fingertips.

16. Learn how to manage, invest, and save money. The school systems do an awful job at teaching kids about money. If you were lucky and had parents who saw this as an important lesson, than feel lucky. The majority of 20 something year olds still have no idea how to manage with their own finances. Learn these skills RIGHT NOW. You will be happy you did as you get older.

17. Sleep more. Yes, we are lucky that in our 20s we still have energy like the energizer bunny. We can work all day, workout, and then go party do it all again the next day off 3 hours of sleep. Just because we can do this does not mean it is good for us. Getting the proper amount of sleep is what is going to keep you feeling and looking younger; it will keep your brain and body healthy and well and in turn will help as we age.

18. Learn how to have healthy relationships. I’m not saying go get married tomorrow or that your priority should be in search for the love of your life BUT you should learn and have some serious healthy relationships. Too many people just spend their 20s hooking up and partying and then they turn 35 and realize they have no idea how to have a committed, healthy romantic relationship and yet they want to get married and reproduce. This is where divorces and unhappy families come in. So learn to love, be committed and respect another human in your 20s.

19. Show gratitude. Appreciate the world around you, where you live, and the people you have in your life. Be thankful for your life and everything in it. Gratitude increases your happiness levels and also makes others happy – and who DOESN’T want to be happy? I’m not saying have Thanksgiving every week but what I am saying is tell and show the people in your life that you are thankful for them. Take time more often than you do now to reflect upon all the things you are thankful for.

20. Make the most of it. Your 20s are going to fly by so make the most of it. You’ll be upset when you are turning 30 or 40 and you think to yourself “fuck, why didn’t I do that or start that.” So be conscious, have fun, and make the most of your prime 10 years on this earth.

What do I do for a living and how can I travel everywhere?

I am constantly asked by family, friends, new people I meet, etc. what I do for a living or how do I travel everywhere and that I am so lucky, blah, blah…

So when being asked what I do for a living I started saying Jack of all Trades (or Jackie of all Trades would be more appropriate I guess) because I do all kinds of different things and people get confused when I list 7 things.

The real answer? I do social media management for small businesses and startups, I book corporate travel all over the world for a corporate agency, I do accounting and finance management for a web design agency, I help with event management on site with an event company, I write proposals and agreements for a marketing agency, and I do on location photography. Lastly, I am building my own brand online of Ginger-ness here at Ginger Talk.

The important thing here is that I have learned through different people that I can do many things and all still work from home, wherever home might be, and so can anyone else. Right now home is in Austin, TX and as of the summer it will be in San Diego, CA. For the next 5 years Dima and I plan to live all over the world and experience life. Traveling and meeting new people and constantly experiencing new things and looking outside of the box has been by far the best knowledge and growth for me. Especially compared to the 4 years I spent in college. So I encourage all of you to do your best to take advantage of whatever age you are now and TRAVEL, MOVE around, GET OUT of your comfort zone, LEARN new skills, and meet NEW people. It will be the best thing you ever did. I swear.

The Perfect Dresses for Redheads

It’s that time of year again with lots of holiday cheer which also includes holiday parties and New Years Eve festivities, work, family, friends, lots of reasons to get dressed up! Blondes and Brunettes generally don’t have to be as selective with their choice in holiday attire and cocktail dress colors because they generally always match their hair! Redheads on the other hand have to coordinate with their beautiful red loches AND it doesn’t help that all the models online showing off the dresses never have red hair! So here are the best colors to look for in a holiday or evening dress whether its for a work party, family holiday gathering or New Years Eve!

Gold
 Navy or Dark Blue

Black
 Emerald Green

 Dresses above found at TOBI and Windsor

The MUST Attend Redhead Events!

Every year there are a few events specifically for us redheads – which is totally friggin awesome! Here are the top 5 must attend redhead events all gingers should attend at one point or another!

1. The Redhead Convention in Ireland held every summer! It’s held in Crosshaven, Cork, Ireland this year on August 22 – 24, 2014. This awesome ginger festival benefits the Irish Cancer Society. The Redhead Convention is the brainchild of redhead brother and sister, Joleen and Denis Cronin and will take place for the fourth year running! It started as a joke in the siblings family pub and succeeded to becoming a gathering of extraordinary uniqueness, attracting hundreds of redheads from all over Ireland and the world. It’s 3 full days chucked full with ginger madness including games, music, and drinks! This event has gingers of all age ranges so bring all your family and friends to this one!

2. Rock It Like a Redhead Fashion Show in New York City and new as of 2014 will also be in Chicago, Los Angeles, Austin, and Atlanta! Rock It Like a Redhead event started as as online resource, How To Be A Redhead, for all things Fashion for Redheads and as of last year went live in New York City on March 16, 2013. It was the world’s first-ever beauty and fashion event for redheads. Attendees browsed and received beauty treatments specifically for redheads from vendors Pureology, Whip Hand Cosmetics, Incoco, Susan Ciminelli and Prescriptives. Redheads also lined up at the How to be a Redhead beauty table to purchase the just-released redhead bobby pins and the Whip Hand Cosmetics lip palettes, EmpoweRED and GlamouRED, from the How to be a Redhead Collection.

3. Redhead Days gathering of redheads from around the world in Breda, Netherlands. The original and largest gathering of redheads in the world! The next Redhead Days event will be September 5 – 7, 2014! There are exhibitions of over 50 artists, a fashion show for redheads, and artwork inspired by redheads; free photoshoots, workshops, lectures, a picnic, films, dinners and a lot of other activities. The last two years they have received the Guinness Book of World Records Largest Gathering of People with Red Hair.

4. Redhead Event – Less of an event and more of just a gathering (in competition with the Redhead Days Event) to continuously keep breaking the previous year Guinness World Record for having the most natural redheads in one place at a time. This giant Redheaded gathering takes place in the summer in Portland, Oregon and all donations benefit the Skin Cancer Foundation. To qualify and participate in The Redhead Event, registrants are required to bring a color copy of themselves as a young person showing their naturally red hair. Individual pictures of all participants will be taken on the day of the event.

5. Redhead Day UK - This day is dedicated to all the redheads with lots of famous redheads making an appearance. Redhead Day is held in Manchester, England every year. Past years they have had motivational speakers, comedians, magicians, and musicians, all of which are redheads! This event is put on and powered by Everything For Redheads which is a community for redheads that provide product info and insight on such things as makeup for redheads, makeup for pale skin & redhead haircare.

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