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Ally’s Anarchy Playbook to Life

Don’t waste who you are. Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken.

Life is an illusion. Reality isn’t real – it’s all our own perception.

Push the limits. Ask questions. Be curious.

Imagination is more important than knowledge.

Try everything. Just don’t get addicted.

Never half-ass anything – always use your full ass.

Lose yourself so then you can go find yourself.

Know the difference between your heart, your mind and your intuition.

Don’t let happiness be defined by other people. Happiness is whatever you want it to be.

Do shit that scares you. Trying new things makes you grow. If you’re not growing, you’re dying.

Travel. Get in a car, on a boat, or in a plane. Change your perception and your reality. Expand your mind and your physical self.

Don’t confuse hate with passion.

Just know, the aliens are coming.

Your brain isn’t fully developed into maturity until you are 25 years old. Try not to make any life altering stupid-ass decisions before then.

Set goals. Without goals you’re useless.

Fall down the rabbit hole and go on a journey.

Self education is worth more than any institutionalized education.

Stop complaining. You are not a tree. If you don’t like where you are or what you’re doing get up and move.

Hustle. No one appreciates lazy people. Lazy people can only get so far.

Eat fresh, wholesome food. Otherwise your choosing to have health problems. 

Network. Make new friends. Keep up with old friends.

Don’t take anything personally.

Read instead of watching tv.

You are not a special little snowflake. If you want to create a name for yourself, that’s up to you.

Remember, the world doesn’t owe you a damn thing.

Find yourself some chaos and then find your nirvana. Ying and yang keeps us alive.

It’s fine if you think you’re a badass, or maybe you actually are but you still need to meditate.

Exercise. Your entire life will improve.

You don’t need to like everyone. Not everyone likes you. Be nice anyways.

You can learn something from everybody no matter how rich or poor or stupid or intelligent you think they are.

Don’t believe everything you hear. Find out for yourself.

You aren’t invincible but you also aren’t fragile.

Nothing is forever and nothing is permanent so live in the present moment.

Remember to think in sounds and see in colors when you need a new perspective.

Play with energy. Get familiar with it and own it.

Dance with the devil and see how much you can grow.

Accidentally fall in love.

Stop living by societies rules. There are no rules.

Drink more champagne. Life is worth celebrating.

Plane Friends

Over the past few years of travel and many flights… I’ve noticed there are two kinds of people on airplanes:

1. the person you sit next to who wants to talk
2. and the person you sit next to who doesn’t want to talk
 
I’ve always been the second person. I have a routine I follow when I travel. I checkin in on my phone, I have my 1 travel bag filled with my essentials: laptop, charger, book, journal, phone, protein bar. I hate getting to the airport early; I breeze through pre-check. Then I go pee. I get a water bottle, I put my headphones in and my sunglasses on. I get to the gate, walk on the plane, sit down with my “don’t bother me” face. If there’s wifi I work, if I can’t work, I read or listen to an audio book, and if it’s a long ass flight I try to sleep OR If I have a plane question (see post here) I’ll journal on my plane question. I try to make my flight time as productive as possible so I don’t lose hours in the air.
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One of my best friends, Heather, she’s the opposite of me. She’s the other type of plane person. Every plane she gets on she always has a story for me about the person she met at the airport or sat next to on the plane. It’s always entertaining and she’s always happy with whomever she meets.

Earlier this year, I decided I was going to be the other type of plane person. I decided I was going to take my sunglasses off, not immediately put headphones in or read until wifi is available. I put my “more approachable” face on and I sit down in my seat.

This year I’ve made 3 plane friends and couldn’t have been happier with each person who has sat next to me on some of my flights. I’ve learned something new from each of them and felt connected to people I wouldn’t normally talk to or have little to nothing in common with. I think it’s amazing we start out as strangers at the beginning of the flight and just a few hours later become friends. The best part is how the conversation starts with each plane friend. It’s almost as if the universe put these people next to me on my plane knowing I set out to make plane friends this year (#intention.)

Friend #1: The plane is running late and this girl my age runs on and sits right next to me. I notice 15 minutes into the flight she had cactus earrings that match perfectly with my cactus shirt I as wearing (I love cacti btw, my favorite plant.) I tell her I love her earrings and she says “AH I wanted to tell you I love your shirt but you looked like one of those “don’t talk to me” people on a plane.” I literally burst out laughing and tell her all about my plan for all my flights going forward and how I’m setting out to make plane friends. Hours later after sharing each other’s life stories and everything in between she said she was happy to be my first official plane friend. We exchanged contact info and follow each other on instagram. #missionaccomplished

Friend #2: My seat is next to this guy in his late 50s on a conference call. He’s rushing off the call because we are about to take off. As I’m about to ask him what he does for a living he asks me if I drive a motorcycle because of my leather jacket (LOL – my resting bitch face is softening up yay!) Hours later after talking about what we do, what’s important to us, and sharing travel stories and recommendations – Halfway through he tells me he has a fake death sentence. He has some rare blood deficiency that at any moment could make him sick and he would die within a few months. He flies once a month to this specialist in NYC who tests his blood to make sure he’s still fine EVERY MONTH. Ever since he found out about it he’s been living differently. He has started and run multiple companies in his life and he stepped down in majority of them to enjoy travel more. He travels all over the world now and works a minimal amount. He goes on these crazy rock climbing and hiking trips with his daughter who’s my age. That wasn’t even the most interesting thing about him… it was that he hangs out with homeless people in Denver, CO just for fun.

Friend #3: It flight was a red eye from Honolulu to Minneapolis so I sat down and fell asleep. Upon waking up I realized the guy sitting next to me looks like he could be my brother… red hair and freckles galore. He looks like he’s in the military. I ask him if he’s coming from home or going to home. He says he’s visiting back home. I learn the town he’s from in Wisconsin has 1200 people in it…total. I explain my high school had 2,000 people in it. He grew up on a farm. Not like the farm I think of like a handful of chickens, cows and a few horses. I’m talking like 600 cows they milk EVERY DAY. Talk about different lives growing up. He starts telling me he hunts right out his backyard and last year he got attacked by a bear but only had to get 12 stitches like its no big deal… UM WHAT. He’s in the marine corps because that’s what every generation before him has done. They enroll right after high school and then they move back home and work on the farm the rest of their life. I was shocked. How can you not want do something different and explore the world? He said he loves where he is from and is so excited to get out of the marines and go back to his families farm. It’s his dream.

Three plane friends down – many more to go.

If you are person type 2 on planes I say for fun make it a point to make a friend on your next flight. See what happens. You never know who your sitting next to.

Happy flying!

-Ginger Out

Plane Questions

Every time I board a plane and its about to take off my life flashes in front of my eyes. I immediately remember and feel grateful for every single person in my life. I feel gratitude for everything I have and everyone I know; all the experiences and opportunities flood me all at once. I remember things I may have forgotten or even hidden. I remember people more vividly than ever before. It’s like a life memory overload in just a couple of minutes. I thought eventually this would fade away as my travel increased but it’s only intensified with each flight. A rush of every single emotion sneaks up on me all at once and I can barely handle it but yet I crave it. The takeoff reminds me that everything could be gone so quickly and how stepping back and appreciating my life is important. The take off of the plane forces me into an overwhelm of appreciation and I love it every single time.

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I’m not afraid of flying but I usually look at the person sitting next to me knowing that if something happened I would grab their hand and tell them everything would be okay. One time I was explaining to a friend how when there is intense turbulence and everyone starts getting that nervous feeling in your gut how I think to myself how awesome my life has been and how grateful I am for everything I’ve had an experienced. I then become at peace and okay with death. The guy sitting beside me and my friend just laughed at me and went “That’s kinda crazy you do that… but also kind of aweosme.”

While all this flash of life seems to happen each flight or ALMOST each flight..I also use plane rides for something else… I use it for decision making. If I have a question or contemplation or decision to make and I know I have a flight coming up I save it for that. It’s uninterrupted time up above the clouds I can journal during with some music. What better place to have a free mind? I’ve come up with some good shit on some amazing flights. You’d be surprised how much your brain can wander 40,000 feet up in the sky.

Next time you have a flight and a question you want answered try journaling it out with the clouds. See what you can come up with :)

2015 Lessons

2015 was a big year for me with a lot of changes, a lot of travel, and a lot of growth. It was all needed and each and every experience, trip, and person was necessary to get me where I am today. 

The big lesson I learned that has really changed me is not just knowing but really experiencing and feeling that true happiness comes from within. No one is responsible for your happiness except you. You can choose to be happy at any point, in any situation, YOU have all the power. I have always known this but I have never fully practiced it until this year. This year I was more consciously present in each moment then I have ever been before. Most of my life I have always been in situations where my mind would wonder off into the twisted abyss that is my brain and wish I was somewhere else. This year was different; This year, I found myself pulling back out of the abyss and into the reality that was my present moment. Once I fully let go, I felt more in control than ever – the irony tasted like salty sweet chips. 

The other big lesson was a huge personal growth and shift for me which was all centered around ‘reactions.’ I played around with reaction a lot in 2015. I gave into my natural instincts, I walked away from situations I would normally stand and fight for, I didn’t react at all sometimes, other times I reacted with complete calm and care for the other person. I learned not to take anything personal. Everyone is just after their own happiness and nobody truly wants to hurt you. You have all the power in your reaction. If someone “personally attacks you” it truly has nothing to do with you at all and everything to do with the person “attacking.” You can turn any situation around all in the power of your reaction. Choose your words carefully. 

Through the second half of the year I started a daily accountability challenge with some of my favorite people. It was interesting to see what daily habits I did consciously vs. subconsciously. I subconsciously (and habitually) put time into my relationships and personal development no matter where I am. Whereas, I had to consciously put more effort into business growth and exercise. I’m planning to shift my subconscious habits a bit in 2016. 

Lastly, I got to check a few more things off my wandering gypsy check list with such adventures as: kissing the blarney stone in Ireland, chasing rainbows in pineapple heaven in Hawaii, skydiving in California, playing with starfish in Palawan Philippines, high tea time in London, and eating gummy bears in a hot tub 8,500 feet up in the mountains of Colorado. If I haven’t stressed it enough to every person in the world then here it is again TRAVEL. Don’t buy more crap, buy more experiences, they’ll last longer. 

That is all for today. Ginger out. 

IT’S TUESDAY

Today is Tuesday. Tuesday’s are my favorite day. I have no idea why. For as long as I can remember, I have gotten this excitement around Tuesday. On Tuesday’s everything shines brighter, things taste better, the sky is bluer, the grass is greener, and everything feels just right. It doesn’t matter if its raining or the sky is falling, it’s still the best day ever to me. It’s like I get high off of Tuesday. I love life, I love everyone in it and everything I’m doing. I’m more receptive, I listen better, I work better, I think deeper, I laugh louder and I’m overwhelmingly grateful for everything. On Tuesday’s I feel like an alien than just got off of my spaceship and onto planet earth for the first time. Everything feels fresh and wonderful.

So on that note, hope you all have a terrific Tuesday.

I’ll just leave this right here…

#GYPSYLIFE

I haven’t been everywhere, but it’s on my list.

When I graduated college 3 years ago I knew two things:

1. I needed to travel and move around.
2. I needed income that would allow me to travel and move around.

I get a combination of statements from people that either don’t understand my lifestyle or that don’t share the same lifestyle needs as I h
ave. It’s either “aren’t you tired?” or “are you ever going to settle down?” or when I first meet people and they say “where do you live?”

My quick answer is always “it’s wanderlust” and/or “I’m a gypsy.” (My Nana calls me a gypsy, so I started rolling with it.)

Yes, one day I will settle down and pop out little devil spawn that will quite possibly take over the world BUT right now that is not my priority. My priority is living my life and seeing and doing as much as I possibly can on this earth. No, not just on earth, in the whole universe (I want to go to space.) I have purposely made my income and life so that I can move anywhere I want to and travel anywhere I want to (provided they have internet of course and yes once the moon has wifi you bet your ass I’ll be on the moon.)

Yes, of course I get tired but that doesn’t alter my interests in anyway to stop traveling. I get energized, excited and happy from travel. I like seeing and experiencing new places; it’s invigorating. One could refer to it as wanderlust. I get pumped up, refreshed, inspired and high on life when I travel. Travel is my coco and I’m in love with my coco. The world has so much to see and offer and most people don’t even get to half of the places they’d love to. I can’t be one of those people. I’d become depressed not seeing or at least trying to see everything I want to in the world.

I’ve learned it’s also the “way you travel” that changed travel for me. I don’t seek out luxurious resorts with spas and a tourist itinerary everywhere I go. I try to immerse myself as if I was living in the place as much as I can when traveling for leisure especially. When I think back on most of my trips, the most inspiring ones have always been staying with friends or not having specific travel plans. For me, the idea that I can (and have) booked a one-way ticket somewhere with no plan or idea what date I will go somewhere next is a feeling I can’t even use words to describe. I encourage you to try it if you haven’t yet.

Travel wakes up my brain cells and recharges me in a way nothing else has. I come up with new ideas, I change, I learn, I grow in an expedited time.

“Not all those who wander are lost”

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This is the beginning of a gratitude post.

I have a tremendous amount of gratitude that I hold inside. It’s been hard for me most of my life to openly share my gratitude to people, even the ones closest to me. This past year I have begun to start expressing my gratitude to the people in my life and all around me and it has had a very positive effect on my life and other people.

So today I want to say thank you to all the teachers I have had in my life over the last 10 years. And no, I’m not talking about my schoolteachers or college professors. I’m talking about all the managers, business owners and employers I have had throughout my professional life thus far. You guys have taught me so much more than I ever learned in my 4 years in college. You all individually have helped me grow and progress in different ways. All of you have each prepared me for a different step in my life and without all of your help I would not be where I am today.

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So here goes…

Erik - Thank you for pushing my creativity. You not only took extra hours in your day to go above and beyond to train me in photography but you also pushed my creativity and me with the camera. Not only did you help shape me into a better photographer but you showed me that photography is much more than just taking someone’s photo; It’s fun, its art, its expression, and much more and you are one of the best photographers I know. You also were the first person to show me what customer service is. I developed a lot of my professionalism through working with you. I’m so glad I got the chance to work with you and thank you for teaching me everything you did.

Nicole Holland – I have never seen anyone work as hard as I’ve seen you work. You were dedicated and more productive than anyone I’ve ever worked with. You taught me dedication, customer service, responsibility, loyalty to a company, productivity, management skills, organization, and much more. You clearly were born to lead and manage others. I took a lot of what I learned from you and your management style into other companies and my own life later on. I am very grateful to have been able to work with you, and become and stay friends with you over the years.

Phil, Jasmin, & Nicole DeMartini – YOU GUYS. I have learned an unspeakable amount from you three both separately and together. You all individually have taught me more than I can even list here. I went from corporate companies to a small business and I got to see the power in running your own company and I loved it. I saw the ups and downs and everything in between. I saw different customer service styles and different management styles. I saw you guys grow as a company, I learned hiring and firing, management, and more; I started learning about company culture and how different it is from a corporate setting. I saw what dedication looks like and what building up and making your dreams happen looks like. You guys showed and confirmed for me that there is so much more growth and endless stuff to learn outside of the education system. You showed me the power of building something on your own and how to build a team. I am very very grateful to have gotten to work with all of you.

Nick – I have learned a tremendous amount about business and travel from you; essentially some life hacks that have improved my life. Your passion and dedication for business is amazing. You have taught me a very big lesson in life and business – one can never get “stuck.” I see you come up with creative solutions to just about anything. You push and strive and have an inspiring drive towards what you want and you never stop pushing towards your goals. If you set a goal, you achieve it and there is nothing that will stop you. Thank you for the time, energy and transparency you have shown me as both a business owner and as a friend.

Sophia & Yanik – I’m beyond grateful for the two of you. You two have opened me up to a world I didn’t even know existed. You guys have changed the way I view the world, business, and myself. You opened up my eyes to life without limits. Sophia I have learned a tremendous amount from you over the last 2 years from event management, planning, details, travel, company culture, creativity, how to create experiences, and much more. You have pushed me and continue to push me to think outside of the box and leave me with so much room to grow and learn. I have never met anyone who can think on his or her feet as fast as you can. You have also blown me away with your creativity and endless ideas down to every last detail in regards to planning the ultimate experience for people. Thank you for continuing to let me grow and learn from the two of you.

James – I have begun and am continuing to learn and grow with you in your company. Throughout my professional life I have learned a lot about myself and it has brought me to work with someone like you. I love your ethics, your no bullshit, straightforward outlook on life and business. Nothing stops you and nothing “can’t” be fixed or solved. I have learned logistics, and what it means to be loyal within the service industry. I am very thankful to work with someone that has such an intense drive for his company.

Dima – Of course I saved you for last. I know you already know this BUT here it is again: You have taught me more than anyone else in my life. You have taught me anything from how to drive to how to build a company. You have been an instrumental part in my growth and learning over the last 9 years. I am unbelievably thankful to have had you as a teacher in my life and still to this day. You have pushed me since I was a sophomore in high school to do better and go further and to never stop learning or growing. You have helped shape me into who I am and who I am becoming and I am and will be forever thankful for it. You showed me anyone can literally do ANYTHING if they want to. When I was 16 I wanted freedom but I didn’t know what that meant for me. Over the last 9 years you helped me learn what that is for me and that is what I am most thankful for.

“What if you woke up tomorrow with only what you were grateful for today?” 

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